Love, calmness, confidence, gratitude, hope and happiness: the six emotions that tip the balance of our mindset in favour of a more positive outlook rather than a negative one.
Wouldn’t it be great to feel more of these positive emotions, and more often?
That was the challenge Fiona Brennan set out to tackle in her bestselling book ‘The Positive Habit’. Here Fiona shares five easy ways to work positive thinking into your daily routine.
If you feel negative remember the 90-second rule for emotions – neuroscience shows that if we sit with the emotion it will pass after 90 seconds.
One of the most positive things you can do is to allow yourself to feel negative emotions with courage, love, and acceptance. We are trained to shut emotions such as anxiety and anger off but repression is highly toxic for our physical and mental health.
Find the courage to sit with uncomfortable emotions. We need to dispel the myth that positivity is rose-tinted naivety.
7 Minutes of Positivity
The first 7 minutes in the morning and last thing at night are when your subconscious mind is most malleable and suggestible.
Use this time wisely and programme your subconscious to self-generate the six supreme positive emotions of love, calmness, confidence, gratitude, hope, and happiness.
As you brush your teeth repeat, “I am calm with the kids”, or “I am confident in all situations I find myself in.”
Make this a habit – start each day afresh by imagining you are washing away any stress, tension, and anxiety.
Feel the water on your skin. Breathe.
Using Existing Habits as Affirmational Tools
Affirmational teeth brushing- how do I want to feel today? Example, as you brush repeat, “I am calm with the kids”, or “I am confident in all situations I find myself in.”
You are using this time to take control of the areas of your life that can feel out of your control.
Tying an existing habit into an already established one makes it more likely to become set in your neural pathways.
Be gentle and kind to yourself always and especially if you make a mistake.
Show Yourself Some Love
Love yourself as you would your own child, a parent, a sibling, a friend. Treat yourself with the respect that you deserve and everything will flow from there.
Be gentle and kind to yourself always and especially if you make a mistake. Show extra compassion to yourself in difficult times.
Let tears come if they need to, always, crying is a very positive thing.
About the Author
Fiona Brennan is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, with a busy practice in Dublin 4. She is a TEDx speaker and regularly features in the media as an ambassador of positive psychology and how to manage stress and anxiety.
As well as running the online therapy course The Positive Habit, designed to help people reduce their anxiety levels and reach their full potential, Fiona is also the author of the bestselling book, ‘The Positive Habit, 6 Steps for Transforming Negative Thoughts to Positive Emotions’.